Match.com

Having separated and fighting through my divorce for two years, I’ve finally gotten the will to get myself out there and potentially dating again. It is true that you learn best through failures. I created an online profile on Match.com. I had already gone on a few first dates with various matches, but nothing really clicked. With every potential connection, I was always up front about my status and what I was looking for.

I knew I wanted to have kids. I knew that I wanted someone to first be a friend, someone who can understand me as much as I understand them. I wanted a long term relationship, not hookups.

I then came across Li’s profile and found it interesting. She was recently divorced as well, so I messaged her. She wrote back somewhat quickly and we agreed to a first date. As I was living in San Francisco at the time and she in San Jose, I suggested I would drive down in the morning and pick her up and we would go on a date in Golden Gate Park. The De Young museum to be exact.

I remember when I first saw her in person, I was attracted to her. But more importantly, we talked a lot on the trip to San Francisco. We talked even more in the museum about everything in our past relationship and what we were looking for in a potential partner. We talked so much that time flew by. We ate lunch at the museum, but I didn’t want the date to end and she never said to take her home, so we just kept talking. It was 9pm before I realized that we didn’t even have dinner! I quickly made it up to her and took her to a burger place (which she suggested).

After dinner, it was getting late and I reluctantly had to take her home. We made sure to make plans for our next date.